many times in literature and the throes of cheesy dialogue do we hear the lines "if he/she loves you, he/she should take you as you are" (we're gonna stick with 'she' now, it's easier) i.e a person would say to you "i wouldn't change a thing in you" or "i don't want you to have to change for me, it isn't right"
come on, who are you kidding? nobody's perfect (cliched, but true) if you're with somebody, there are some habits or behavioral patterns that you definitely would like to change...although you learn to live with every bit of these things, given a choice, you'd change a lot...and now let's look at the other side, if you really care for someone you'd want to change for them yourself!! ideally, i don't like keeping my house clean or shirts folded or ironed or anything, im just lazy, but if somebody i care for would be happy if i did, i would!! we humans enjoy making other humans close to us happy...unconditional or otherwise, I'd be happy to see you happy, you'd be my reason to fold my shirts, because let's face it, folding shirts is, good for me too, i know that...but i can live without doing that...but when i know im being asked to because im cared for, it feels nice :) every shirt folded, every bed made, every bit of the house kept clean...would make you feel nice when you do it, because you know that this change matters...a man in love, would do anything to make his interest happy, and these are all just metaphors and/or examples...change, is very welcome if it is for someone you love...of course that doesn't mean i transform into this prim and proper gentleman, we don't want a transformation, we just want you to care for us to tweak ourselves :) im dying to change...kinda...ok that doesn't make much sense...
men will be truly men only without women...and neither of the two 'positions' are comparable...except that we have the option to 'drop out' of a relationship :-P (though nobody would do that to be a 'man' again unless they have a truly intolerable woman)
im talking about something very typical...not all women and men can identify with this situation...it's a point of view over a fictional story...something made up...something which actually follows certain norms, hmmmmm....im so tempted to contradict myself right now!! but for that you need the example of 'the perfect woman'...agh...all women, however 'liberal' or 'chilled out' have some common unavoidable traits...it's ok, we do like women for those :)
a quote, totally contradictory:-
when asked about marriage:- "we're a generation of men raised by women, I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need" - Tyler Durden
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